I read somewhere once that a good relationship is the absence of friction, meaning you and your partner can handle any situation together and get along moreso than not. I would agree with this, but when you just do coffee or dinner dates it can be hard to see someone in a true light. How can you find out more about someone and who they really are, instead of what they just tell you? Well good news is on the way as we’ve got some ideas on how you can plan fun dates that will not only help you create a closer connection, but will also help you determine if you can be a good fit for the long haul.
1. Rock Climbing – I would reserve this date idea for a few dates down the road, but it can be a great way to build trust with a partner (you literally have to trust them to keep you safe on the rope) and learn more about communication. Rock climbing provides a lot of different scenarios with varying degree of difficulty, so this is a perfect exercise in compatibility and fun! Plus it’s always a bonus to see how fit your partner is as they scale the wall.
2. Escape Games – This trend is sweeping the nation as people flock to locked rooms everywhere solving puzzles and picking up clues to help unlock mysteries and win the game. These are also great places to see how your date handles pressure, puzzles, and teamwork. For those not familiar escape games is a concept where a group of people are usually locked in a room and have to solve a series of problems while working together to win the game. The great thing about this is that you get to see how your date handles working with others, how they handle brain teasers, and stress. Now, don’t look at this date as a “test” but rather this is an opportunity to learn more about how your date operates and gives you a better picture of who they are.
3. Mini-Getaways – Day trips out of the city are a great way to get to know someone and see if you can spend a long amount of time with them without you both killing each other. Driving a few hours north and then hitting up a cute Airbnb or Bed and Breakfast will help you learn about each other without the full commitment of taking a big trip together. In this scenerio you get to explore new territory together, navigate places unknown, and find new topics to discuss together and get feedback on. It’s a great way to see someone in what might not be their normal element.
4. Cook Together – Sometimes you can learn about someone just by trying something new but complex together. Learning how to cook a new dish can be a great exercise in teamwork and understanding. By making a recipe together that you both haven’t made before you get to help each other with the directions, and course correct when needed. Plus at the end of it, when you sit down to enjoy the meal all your hard work will be worth it.
5. Beach Day – Spending a day at the beach together can prove wonderful for a budding relationship. Sometimes it’s all in the silences and at the beach you and your date might want to take a few minutes of silence together just relaxing, catching up on reading and enjoying the sun. This date will show if you both are really comfortable in each other’s company not having to always be on the go and doing something.
These date ideas are meant to help you build more emotional intimacy with a partner through shared experiences. At the end of the day only you can decide if someone is a good fit, and it can take an extremely long time to really get to know someone. These date ideas can provide a good starting foundation for getting to really know someone allowing you to evaluate the experiences you have with them and check in with yourself to see if your date is just meant to be around for a good time or a long time.